How to Love Your Partner
(and Leave Them Alone)
A 6-Week Counseling Group for Couples with Erika & Jeff Wright
Sundays, Jan 25 – Mar 1 (6 weeks) | Online via Zoom | 10am-12pm PT
Most couples don't break because they don't love each other. They break because love gets fused with control, over-functioning, and emotional dependence.
You try harder. You track moods. You manage the temperature of the relationship. You over-explain, over-accommodate, or shut down. And the more you work for connection, the less free it feels.
You think you need to work on communication. But the real issue? You're not telling each other the truth. You're managing each other's emotions. Protecting each other from disappointment. Avoiding conflict to keep the peace. And calling it love.
But what you're actually doing is creating distance. Resentment builds when you swallow your truth. Intimacy dies when you're more focused on controlling your partner's reaction than on being honest about what's real for you.
This 6-week online group is for couples who want a love that's honest, grounded, and spacious—where intimacy doesn't require self-abandonment, and autonomy doesn't mean disconnection.
Here's the paradox that changed our marriage (and the couples we work with):
When you build emotional and energetic autonomy, love gets safer. When you stop trying to run your partner's experience, the relationship can finally breathe.
This isn't about loving less. It's about loving with skill—so both the We and the I can thrive.
What to Expect
Codependency in partnership often masquerades as "caring," but it's usually a strategy for safety:
- Managing your partner’s feelings (so you can feel okay)
- Doing the emotional labor for two
- Losing yourself to keep the connection
- Getting hooked by guilt, withdrawal, anger, or neediness
- Saying “yes” while your body says “no”
Over six weeks, we’ll help you build a different foundation—one where you can:
- Hold your center when your partner is activated
- Avoid shutting down or taking responsibility for their emotions
- Speak what's real for you & receive their truth without manipulation or control
- Set limits that honor your needs while staying connected & present
- Move through ruptures in ways that strengthen the relationship instead of eroding it
- Build interdependency where both people are whole, separate & genuinely choosing each other
What you’ll experience
Each week includes teaching, guided practices, and live counseling/support from us—with structured time to work directly with your partner.
Expect:
- Intimate teachings and real stories from our own marriage
- Clear frameworks for nervous system + relational patterns
- Guided reflection + partner dialogue (you’ll know exactly what to do)
- Practices for emotional autonomy, transparency, and non-codependency
- Live coaching moments to unwind your specific dynamic
- A grounded, compassionate space to take real risks and practice new ways of relating
This isn't about learning techniques to communicate better. It's about fundamentally transforming how you relate—moving from codependency to real intimacy, where truth-telling becomes the foundation and both people get to be fully themselves.
A group is for couples who are ready to practice.
You might be:
- Stuck in pursue/withdraw dynamics
- Repeating conflict that never fully resolves
- Living with resentment, shutdown, criticism, defensiveness, or people-pleasing
- Wanting more intimacy but afraid to be fully honest
- Tired of one person carrying the relationship
- Committed to love—and ready to stop confusing love with control
You don’t need to be in crisis to join.
You just need willingness, honesty, and a desire to do it differently.
Schedule & details
Dates: Sundays, Jan 25 – Mar 1 (6 weeks)
Time: 10am-12pm PT
Location: Online via Zoom
Group size: Limited to 10 couples (small by design)
Investment
$1500 per couple for the 6-week counseling group.
One partner registers for both of you.
Payment options: Pay in full, or $750 deposit + remaining $750 due by Feb. 8th
MEET YOUR FACILITATORS : Erika & Jeff Wright
Erika Wright is a guide and devoted student of love in all its dimensions. Her work began in helping people heal codependency and has expanded into exploring the intergalactic and multidimensional principles of love. With a blend of Boston-born directness and deep compassion, she offers reflections and practices to help you reconnect with your truth, center in stillness, and open to the vast field of love that’s always here.
Jeff Wright is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, spiritual counselor, and co-founder of Medicine Path Native American Church in Berkeley, CA. For over 25 years, he has guided individuals and couples toward greater clarity, connection, and purpose through practical tools and compassionate presence. His work bridges psychology and spirituality, helping people integrate their experiences with Sacred Plant Medicines and apply the self-healing power of these teachings in everyday life for the benefit of all their relations. Visit jeffwrightmft.com to learn more.
