3 months. 9 live sessions. A group of people practicing the same thing you are.
This is my signature group. It's the work I've been teaching and refining for years, in the format that has done the most good for the most people. If you want to change how you show up in your relationships, this is where to start.
The work, in plain terms
Codependency is a practice problem, not an information problem
Codependency is a defended, conditional, transactional way of loving. It's the habit of managing your own feelings, or someone else's, to avoid being uncomfortable.
It looks like saying yes when you mean no. Working harder at someone else's life than they are. Building a quiet case against the people who have hurt you. Treating your own discomfort like a fire that has to be put out immediately.
Most of us learned it early and never questioned it. You can read about it for years and still not shift it, because it isn't an information problem. You change it by doing something different, in real time, with people who can see you clearly and tell you the truth.
That's what this group is for.
- Format
- Live on Zoom
- Length
- 9 x 90-minute sessions over 3 months
- Times
- Tuesday AM or Wednesday PM
- Group size
- Small on purpose
Two ways in
Start with a free consult
We talk for 15 minutes. I get a sense of what's going on for you and what you're hoping to change. You get a sense of me and how I work. Then you decide.
This is a conversation, not a sales pitch. If it isn't the right fit, I'll tell you, and I'll point you somewhere better.
- Book your free 15-minute consult
- We talk. You decide if it's a fit.
- Choose Tuesday morning or Wednesday evening
- Begin at the next start date
The group runs 3 months start to finish and you commit to all of it. 9 x 90-minute sessions, Signal support Monday through Friday, and the same people beside you the whole way.
Welcome back
If you've done any version of my healing codependency group before, 6-week, 3-month, or 6-month, you can come straight back in. No consult required.
You already know how this works. Pick a start date and step in.
- Start back at the beginning of a group: September, January or May. Next up is September.
- Choose Tuesday morning or Wednesday evening
- Enroll and begin
- Stay month to month for as long as it serves you
No 3-month commitment. Stay as long as the work is serving you and cancel any month you need to.
The group runs 3 times a year
Each group has its own theme. You don't have to take them in order and none of them is a prerequisite for another. Whichever one is next is the right place to begin.
Fall / September to November 2026
Coming Back to Yourself
Getting back in contact with your own gut. Learning the difference between connection and control. Discovering what belongs to you and what genuinely doesn't.
Is this working for me?
Winter / January to March 2027
Letting People Be
The end of over-functioning. What happens when you stop working harder at someone else's life than they are, drop the case you've been building, and stop treating discomfort like an emergency.
What am I carrying that was never mine?
Spring / May to July 2027
Telling the Truth
Truth-telling as the fastest route to freedom. Releasing the resentments and the stories built around being wronged. Coming back to love, which is the whole reason any of us bother with this work.
What would I say if I stopped protecting everyone?
What you get
9 x 90-minute live sessions
Teaching, sharing and real-time counseling with me. Not a lecture series. You bring what's actually happening in your life and we work it live.
Signal support, Monday to Friday
6am to 8pm PT. When you catch yourself mid-pattern and need another perspective before you react, you have somewhere to go. This is the piece people tell me changes things fastest.
A group that stays together
The same people, the same room, all 3 months. They see your patterns. They celebrate the shifts. They notice when you're doing the old thing before you do.
Session recordings
Every session is recorded, with the option to opt out of being recorded. Miss a week and you can watch it back.
Flexibility when life happens
If you can't make your usual day, attend the other session that week. If a session is canceled for reasons beyond my control, you'll most likely receive a half-hour private session with me instead.
A framework you keep
The tenets of healing codependency, in language you can actually use in the middle of a hard conversation. This doesn't expire when the group ends.
You cannot practice a boundary in a journal
Codependency is a relational pattern. It was built in relationship, and it comes undone in relationship.
You get witnesses
Your patterns are invisible to you and obvious to everyone else. A group gives you people who notice what you can't, and who care enough to say it out loud.
You practice on real people
Speaking your truth to a room and having it land, or not land, and surviving that, is the actual skill. There's no substitute for the reps.
You stop being the only one
Most people arrive convinced their version of this is uniquely shameful. Then someone else describes it exactly, and something loosens that no amount of private insight ever touched.
You learn from everyone in the room
Watching me work with someone else's situation teaches you as much as working with your own. 9 sessions of live counseling, not just your own turn.
Accountability that isn't a nag
People notice when you don't show up. They notice when you slide back. That noticing is a form of love, and most of us have never had it.
It holds
You can heal a lot on your own. You will heal faster, and it will last longer, with people.
Who this is for
This group is for you if
- You know something in your relationships isn't working and you're done reading about it
- You say yes when you mean no, and you're tired of the resentment that follows
- You're the one who holds everything together, and you're exhausted
- You want boundaries that don't come with a side of guilt
- You want to be able to receive support, not just give it
- You want to tell the truth, especially to yourself
- You're willing to be uncomfortable for 3 months in exchange for a different life
This group is not for you if
- You want tools you can use on other people without looking at your own patterns
- You're looking for a support group rather than a practice group
- You need crisis-level clinical care right now. Let's talk about a referral instead.
What happens in here
Self-contactI'm in contact with myself and others in a way that I have never quite understood how to be. As a therapist, this is some of the deepest work I've ever done.
R., therapist
Not getting hookedI see it, it's horrible and painful, but I am not jumping on it like a horse and riding away on it like I used to. I feel a freedom and peace that I've never felt in my life.
V., group participant
Marriage and familyThis work has changed my marriage, it's changed the way I raise my children, it's changed the way I treat my family. Mostly it has changed how I feel about myself.
L., group participant
Before you book
Why do I need to enter a card for a free consult?
So that the people booking my time actually show up. You are not charged if you attend.
How often does the group run?
3 times a year. Groups begin in September, January and May, and each one runs 3 months.
Do I have to have a partner to do this work?
No. Codependency shows up with parents, children, friends, colleagues and clients. Everyone in this room is working on relationships. Not all of them are romantic.
What if I've only done a video workshop, not a group?
Then you're new to the groups and should start with a consult. The workshops are a great introduction, but they're not the same thing.
What if I miss a session?
Attend the other session that week, or watch the recording.
Can I do this alongside individual counseling?
Yes. Many people do both, and they work well together.
What if I've been in a group before but it was years ago?
You're still a returning participant. Come back at the $500 monthly rate.
Start where you are
If you're new, book the consult. 15 minutes, no pressure, and you'll know quickly whether this is your thing. If you've been here before, pick a start date and come back.