In this episode, I’ll tell the pivotal story of my relationship with my brother, and how letting go of a codependent relationship liberated both of us. This is the reason why I’m doing this work, and why this podcast exists.

The origin of my codependency story began the day I saved my 2-year-old brother from drowning in our childhood pool. From then on, I assigned myself as my brother’s keeper. I detail how my codependent relationship was a high priority throughout my life, from intervention and rehab to being his accountability partner, all the way to relapsing in my home… around my husband and children. 

I share how clarity from sobriety provided a level of reality I was willing to acknowledge and accept, including having to make an intensely painful decision before the holidays. There was intense grief involved, but ultimately I knew I did the most loving thing for him and me. When a death in the family brought us back together, I felt peace about the situation, whether there was accountability on his side or not. 

I illustrate markers of being in a codependent relationship and share the two gifts I received from this experience. I now know that every person is capable and in charge of themselves and their own life. The codependency was simply the relationship I created between myself and my brother’s potential. Letting go of the cycle always outweighs the discomfort. 

Topics Covered: 

• The day my brother moved into my house
• The timeline of events relating to my brother’s addiction issues 
• Codependent patterns I noticed about myself 
• My internal struggle with the type of sister I wanted to be
• The grief that surrounds making the hard, but right, decision 
• Two significant gifts I received from this experience  

Thank you for listening and thank you to my podcast producer Media Midwife Ahri Golden for helping me bring my story to life. 

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Credit:

• Sponsored by Supah Star Dark Chocolate Superfood Bars and Godseye Oils
• Podcast Production by Media Midwife Ahri Golden
• Podcast art by Megan Schiller